The Kiss Cam Concert Debacle ~ The Moment The Glass Bubble Burst

The Astronomer CEO’s eye catching kiss cam just launched him, and his errant HR sweetheart into a predicament beyond their wildest dreams.

It was so obvious, even the Coldplay lead vocalist pointed out that the couple was either having an affair, or very shy. It is amazing how the body language in a ten second clip (slip) can tell all. Chris Martin nailed it. Coldplay inadvertently turned up the heat. 

You have to wonder if the couple’s reaction was the worst thing they could possibly do. They might blame Chris Martin, or the camera person, but they incriminated themselves. First the look of surprised shock, followed by her turning away and covering her face, and even more so, his rather low-grade attempt at a disappearing act.

Most incredibly, when he ducked down to hide, he was actually trying to shield himself behind transparent glass. The entire blunder carries so many metaphorical fragments, it is like the quills of a porcupine letting loose a thousand barbs, at the optimal moment.

One minute they are locked in a loving embrace, all besotted and starry eyed. Seconds later, his handsome virility was liquefied, in a feeble attempt to blot himself out of the scene. If there had been a crack in the floor he could have slithered through, he would have been long gone. 

What does all the body language tell us about the CEO running an up-and-coming billion dollar tech company that is reported to have reached “unicorn status” in 2022? Unicorns are other worldly one-horned creatures. They are the stuff of myths, legends and fables.

Andy Byron’s reaction, in my opinion, was the worst thing he could have done. If they could have suffered through it, and done nothing at all, it would not have been so catastrophic. Caught, yes, but he showed his true colours, in a way he can never take back.

Not only was he betraying the trust of his wife, and family, he was betraying the trust of the company, employees, and investors, with a deceptive double standard.

Worse yet, he demonstrated he had loyalty to no one but himself. By dropping down, and hiding in plain sight, he made it very clear that he was not in love with his mistress, anymore than he was in love with his wife. It was a tacky knee-jerk reaction to save himself, yet it did the opposite. He showed a lack of courage, a lack of integrity, and a lack of class. He acted like a kid caught with his hand in the cookie jar.

Or like when a toddler plays hide and seek, and they cover their face with a book, thinking they cannot be seen. 

He immediately abandoned his mistress, which demonstrated how unimportant she was to him. If he really cared about her, he would have stayed by her side, and shown some empathy for what the exposure would do in her life, as well as his own.

However, when they were exposed for all the world to see, he did not want to be caught dead with her. It was all heady, and fun and games – until it wasn’t. If they had been on a boat, he might have tossed her overboard, just to get rid of the hot potato. 

We can all go on about the betrayal surrounding affairs. My motto has always been – If your spouse can’t trust you – who can? It is the main reason I could never understand why people strive to be with someone who is prepared to betray their significant other.

Why would you want to become his (or her) significant other? Wouldn’t you think you could be replaced or betrayed, just as easily? Boredom comes quickly for those who have no loyalty, or monogamous values. 

However, affairs are very common, and no one knows the intricacies of walking that tight rope, or the reasons behind it all. Overall, it is much healthier, and far less complicated, to get out of one relationship, before getting into another one. 

In so many of the foolish things people do in life, the fact it happens, is part of human nature, and cheating is often a character trait. Some people are loyal, no matter what happens. Others are players. But the reaction when caught, is even more telling, when it comes to the person’s character. 

Regardless of how we judge such things, we do have to acknowledge that all people have free will, and can choose to have affairs if they want to. However, those affairs are never quite as covert as the culprits seem to think.

When people work together every single day, often for long hours, the temptation can be strong, especially if there is a physical attraction. In spite of how we view such things, we have no real insight since every situation is unique to the people, circumstances, and environment they are in.

Probably those who have had affairs, or experienced a marital breakdown due to their spouse having an affair, would have a better understanding, than those who have not experienced it first hand. 

We can be pretty sure that most of us have witnessed workplace affairs. In a hospital setting, affairs between doctors and nurses are very common. I certainly witnessed, or knew about many of them. 

In some cases, the workplace has people who are actually trolling to find someone to hook up with. I recall a few times where certain nurses were looking for a doctor, as a matter of prestige. They did not care if the guy was married, nor did the doctor seeking an affair care if the nurse was married.

Some people seem to prefer trysts with married people, since being somewhat unavailable might make it seem easier, or less threatening to their marriage. However, that is not clear thinking. Affairs, in countless ways can lead to some very uncomfortable, and sometimes dangerous situations.  

At the Coldplay concert, Andy Byron, after unceremoniously crouching down to hide, then went on the defensive, immediately getting lawyers involved, threatening to sue, accusing Coldplay of violating his privacy. Huh? By reacting like a victim, he just dug himself in deeper. 

It was a very public event, known to have Jumbotron technology scanning the crowd. Chris Martin announced it was coming. He told people to get their makeup on.

One would think it would be known to the CEO of a high tech company, that he could be randomly spotlighted, or picked up on camera. Surely, there would have been multiple cameras at the entrances, and exits as well.

It wasn’t like they were cuddling in the back seat of a car on a remote lover’s lane, with stalking paparazzi crouching in the bushes. 

What would make anyone who is having a clandestine affair believe that going to a concert with more than 50,000 people, and a kiss-cam Jumbotron camera scanning the crowd – would be a good idea?

How can it be described as private life? They could have easily been spotted, and filmed on a cell phone by someone who recognized them. What would make them think they were so invincible when it came to public scrutiny? Everyone is. And if you are a rich, eye-catching, hot-shot CEO – even more so.

To make the point that you never know who you might run into, or be seen by: I come from a very small town in Alberta of just 500 people. Yet I know of cases where people from my home town ran into someone they knew, from the same small town – at an airport in Athens, and in another case, someone ran into a person in Germany. People do get around, and lo and behold, we tend to recognize the people we know.

Anyone who is having an affair has to know they could be spotted, filmed, picked up on camera, or even followed by a private detective hired by one of their spouses. To be so flagrant in public, would lead us to believe they wanted to be caught. Yet clearly, they were dumbfounded when they saw themselves on camera.

From lovestruck to dumbstruck. He was goggle-eyed then bowled over. He lost his dignity. Given the office rumours that rapidly came to light, as well as her rapid promotions, and reputation – it got worse by the hour.

Now some savvy board of directors is going to have to do damage control. Their golden boy CEO went up in Astronomer’s vapour. His entire character, and persona was a carefully crafted illusion. Now they have the task of proving the entire company, is not a carefully crafted unicorn-like illusion. Depicting a beast with a horn, is almost prophetic.

Byron went from being a star gazing corporate astro-boffin, to a double crossing deep diver more akin to an astro-buffoon. He is now the joker, a clown, a comic harlequin, a dolt, a merry Andrew. A regrettable person to marry, and a mistake to hire.

One day he was full of power, prestige, money, and envy, when he was actually a double-dipping dream catcher in action. Within a matter of seconds, due to his own poor judgment – he became the laughing stock of the world, an Internet meme, and a victim of the technology, and company he promoted like a crown prince.

When the bubble burst, all that transparent glass came flying back at him. He has already been sacked, and his wife is divorcing him.

What about the mistress? She has her own kettle of fish to deal with, and might be headed for an early retirement, as well as a divorce. Sounds like she broke through the glass ceiling, like a rock-et star, and launched herself into Astronomer’s oblivion. Or so they hope…

Below is a quote from Newsweek describing her glowing profile. She had only been with Astronomer eight months. Just speculating, but if the office gossip was full blown by the time of the kiss-cam exposure, one has to wonder if the affair began immediately, or if it could have been the reason she was hired in the role in the first place? Chances are, the office sleuths will figure it out in due time. 

“On this profile, she describes herself as “a passionate people leader known for building award-winning cultures from the ground up for fast-growing startups and multinational corporations. An influential leader and fearless change-agent, I lead by example and win trust with employees of all levels, from CEOs to managers to assistants.”

Well…it sounds like she was passionate all right. What about a fearless change-agent? Chameleon might have been a better word. The last sentence is so laden with hypocrisy, it is almost laughable. 

Once again, as pure speculation, based on how dilated his pupils looked in the image – if I was HR, it would be tempting to order a drug test. Given the descriptions about his edgy, short-tempered workplace reputation, it would be even more reason to make him get a drug test. But that too, is all water under the bridge. He can do what he wants, but he won’t have quite as much money, and stardom to flaunt. 

He flamed out, and folded like a cheap suit.

In both cases, the spouses were publicly humiliated, without any advance warning. It means those spouses might be smoking mad. Revenge is a strong motivator. The cheap suit is on its way to the cleaners. 

One thing that is truly amazing – is how the collapse of a house of cards, can come down like a ton of bricks.

As for most of us ogling onlookers – doesn’t it make you feel glad to be a nobody?

Anonymity is bliss. 

The only real game changer, is sincere repentance. It humbles us. 

Because no matter who you are – no secret is secure.

There is so much speculation about the imminent divorce proceedings, and about the toxic work environment created by the CEO and Director of HR.

If the rumours about the work environment are true, it could lead to even more problems and legal battles for both the CEO and the HR. It could even be viewed as an underhanded strategy by the CEO to have total control, to include promotions, firings, and sensitive information about employees. 

Whatever comes to light in the aftermath of the affair could complicate things well beyond the exposure of the affair. They could have violated laws to the extent they land in really hot water, and could potentially face charges. 

One of the questions circulating around this situation, is whether or not the HR director has a case for claims of power imbalance, saying he initiated the relationship and pursued her. She could imply that due to gender roles, and power imbalance, if she refused go along with it, her job was at risk. 

It’s a lame excuse. She had plenty of power, and it takes two to tango. At the concert, did she look like she was being coerced, or forced into the embrace?

Given the role she was in, in my opinion, it is a shaky and weak argument. She had many other options, other than to have an illicit office romance. Her decision to have an affair with a married CEO, is something she has to own.

She was not a twenty year old minimum wage waitress, and single mother, forced into an affair by a powerful owner of a chain of restaurants. She had a very wealthy husband, and was in a role that gave her ample opportunity to firmly say no. At age fifty-two, she had been around the block more than a few times. 

If he would not take no for an answer, she could have gone to the board of directors, or let him know the company has sexual harassment policies. Clearly she did not resist his advances.

It is quite possible she was the one who was making a play for him in the first place. They both liked the thrill of high stakes risk, deception, and power. Neither one of them had any respect for ethics, or workplace boundaries. Carrying out an affair for months takes a fair bit of guile.

Now both of them are inclined to play the victim card. No doubt they are feeling the catastrophic effects of their choices. Chances are, it will get worse before it gets better.

Maybe she will end up going on the mental health circuit, claiming to have some mental health disorder that caused the lapse in judgement. It is doubtful he would go that route. Powerful CEO’s don’t tend to admit to anything, let alone a mental health breakdown. 

On the brighter side, this situation brings home to many people, just how devastating affairs can be. Maybe those contemplating such a move, will think twice.

The widespread public reaction also makes it clear that the majority of people do not support the concept of extramarital affairs. Children don’t support it either. They are caught in the middle of the mess, and often it affects them for the rest of their lives. 

I don’t take a major judgemental stance, because I know marriages, conflicts, and marital breakdown is best kept behind closed doors. I also know people are faced with temptations every day, and who really knows what motivates them to have an affair?

Public opinion and judgement is one thing. Consequences are another thing. Some people never get caught. Few get caught in such a publicized and glaring spotlight as this case. 

There are many fish in the sea, some of which take the bait, and others mercifully swim by, oblivious to the lurking danger.

For those who do take the bait, be prepared for a battle that could lead to a gaffe, and a solid bonk on the head. You may end up flopping around in the bottom of a boat, wondering what the heck just happened. 

A gaff is a long pole with a spear, used to land a really big fish. This situation immediately turned into the most significant gaffe the big fish CEO has ever made.

Let it be a lesson. I almost got it backwards. Homonyms can be tricky. 

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